Date a Girl Who Reads

I Just stumbled upon something while blog-hopping and I just had to reblog it. I found it in a rather amazing blog by the name of seongyosa who working as a missionary teacher in South Korea. The article was titled “Date a Girl Who Reads”, which has been retained by me. It is my understanding that she itself got it from another blog by Rosemarie Urquico. Now this is a viral literary essay on the internet. 
When I read this article I just had to publish it again, it is so beautifully written and I loved it so much. 
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second-hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamier is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted.
Ask her if she likes the book. Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail herBecause a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her.You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve itYou deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

Don’t you agree that its beautiful, A simple way to talk about the girl of my dreams. 🙂

123 thoughts on “Date a Girl Who Reads

  1. ” If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.”–I agree!!:D:D
    Personally I would love to sit with a person (girl/ boy irrespective) who Reads…there would be so much to talk about!!:)


  2. hello

    came to ur blog after long and loved this one. Yep I never had a library card when I was 12 😉 Infact never had one till college 😀 My home was my library- My mothers book shelf…

    Loved this whole article. Very true.. People who like reading can make their life more interesting but it needs a man who loves to read too !


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    By @Donkogai
    Date an arrogant man. Date a man who is uncouth and bigheaded. Find him after you have broken up with a cheating boyfriend. You see that egotistical dude that idles around the estate? That is the fool you need to date. Date him because he will affront your Ex from creeping back to your life.

    Let him charm you by his pride as he fends off everybody that has ever hurt you. The smile from your face and the confidence that oozes off his face as he superciliously churn abuses to that stupid girlfriend who you thought wanted to take your Ex, will make you beam with satisfaction. Try to fall for him.

    Kiss him every time he criticizes your friends turn foes. Let him fuck you and tell the whole world how good he was in bed. How he pulled and made you turn. Use condoms because you know you don’t want to have his baby. Wake up in the morning and let him do it again. Smile and fake the orgasm because you don’t really love him. Take about your seismic nights on social media. Complain how he left you with backache because of the mid-night extra co-curricular activities.

    Travel to a foreign country and let him brag about him footing the Ksh.2000 bus fare to everybody who cares to listen. Bruise his ego because you know it is just a matter of time and you will be back with your Ex. Perk him as he visits you at work. Take his flowers and throw them by the subway as you walk home in the evening. Pity him. Secretly call him a fool, because that is what he is.

    Conceal your stormy affair from your family. Forward to him SMS from your brother’s girlfriend late in the night. Let him reply with those stale internet generated messages. Reply with lol:- because you know he can’t write a line to save his own life. Dream of your Ex and wake up with smiles on your face.

    Post his edited pictures on Social media. Frown as your Ex like the picture. Comment. Comment again because nobody else is commenting apart from you and that ludicrous dude you’re seeing. Get off the picture and rumble about love. Talk about your Ex that kisses like a thirsty dog.

    Change your Facebook status to engaged. Smile and think about it. Smile again at that silent whisper in your brain that keeps telling you that you’re single. Leave your Ex a message on Facebook. Deny and say that you almost got stupid about it. Convince yourself that you love that inane abusive goof.

    Date a fool because gentlemen are boring and their verbal backlashes can’t make headlines in dailies. Let him receive your call as that ‘lousy’ boyfriend calls you. Smile as he tells Mr. Ex to go to hell and get his act together. Part him on the back, soft strokes and finally a perk on the neck. Think of how you use to bite your Ex on the neck and cry silently.

    Introduce him to your family after he coerces you to. Smile when you see them all together. Let him play with your nieces and talk to your sister. Reprimand your kid brother for talking to him rudely. Cry when things get heavy with mum. Cry to him. Leave your mark on his white shirt. The shirt you bought him with money from your first job.

    Don’t think too much about him. Go to his apartment over the weekend. Hate the intercourse. Sip the only tawdry gin he got. Ask him his future plan. Watch how he fidgets with the answer. Conclude that he is the type that lives life one at a time. Without plan. Comprehend your future together as bleak.

    Date this fools because at the end of the day, when all is said and done, birds of the same feathers will always flock together. So go ahead and date this butt.

    Yet better still date him because for you April 1 happens everyday.


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